Hello my beautiful peeps out there. I am here again to write about the belief which is most likely to happen in most of the people around the globe i.e., ‘EXPECTATION’.
You must have seen a lot of quotes saying ‘expectation hurts’ and all. But does anyone know what expectation is? How many classifications are there? Here in this blog, I will be discussing every little thing about this word ‘EXPECTATION’.
First and foremost, Expectation is nothing but a strong belief that centres on the future; may or may not be realistic. It is very different from HOPE. Expectation is a definite condition of belief that something will happen and hope is when you want something to happen and when it does happen, you feel really happy about it. But when it does not, it is completely ok. Hope has the negative potential for no response, but the positive potential of bliss.
Next thing that you need to keep in mind is that what sort of expectation I am writing about. There can be two types of expectation: FIRST will be the expectation that we have from others and SECOND be the one that we have from ourselves. Which of these types you should go to; that I will be describing below. Let’s start from very basic;
Effects: In this strong expectation, when it does happen, you don't really get any joy because it was part of the entitlement. But when it does not happen, eventually it will hurt you only. It lets you down and makes you upset.
What we can do: Humans and expectations behave like a simple rubber band – the more you stretch it, the more it wants to bounce back. If we lose consciousness, over-stretching will break the rubber band. Don’t expect much from others because when your expectation break, it will adversely affect you.
Now you may say, it is human nature to expect anything from anyone but it is not. It is all about how you train your mind to behave. The person whose expectations had been broken many times, that person’s mind automatically becomes trained not to expect much from others, as in, he/she had suffered much by expecting from others. So, to prevent yourself from mental and emotional suffering, you need to train your mind not to blindly trust anyone or to expect much from anyone.
Effects: Expecting ourselves to meet some goals can never let us down. Because when it does happen, we will be happy and full of joy. And when it does not, we will not get disappointed and many times, people get encouraged from the failures they face and hence gain ability to achieve more and more. When we learn from our failures, we become unstoppable.
What we can do: Set goals and take small steps to reach that goal. Expect yourself that you will pass every obstacle that you will see. And train yourself to learn from failures and not to get discouraged by them.
Don’t set such high goals for yourself other you will be responsible for your disappointments. Set a goal that is achievable and work in that direction. When it is achieved, set another goal and this will actually help you to move up and achieve better.
Many a times, we spend a lot of time, nurturing the people around us without even realizing that we have started expecting from them. Whenever someone falls below our expectations, was it their fault if they did not perform up to our expectations? Mostly, people don’t have any clue that they are falling below our expectations and hence unknowingly, let us down.
No one ever will be bothered about when and what you are expecting them to do. So, it’s better to have expectations from ourselves rather than others.
Get set and go! And let yourself to be the beneficiary of the ability to manage your expectations.
For more visit: https://wordpress.com/post/spiritedwordsdotlife.wordpress.com/90
You must have seen a lot of quotes saying ‘expectation hurts’ and all. But does anyone know what expectation is? How many classifications are there? Here in this blog, I will be discussing every little thing about this word ‘EXPECTATION’.
First and foremost, Expectation is nothing but a strong belief that centres on the future; may or may not be realistic. It is very different from HOPE. Expectation is a definite condition of belief that something will happen and hope is when you want something to happen and when it does happen, you feel really happy about it. But when it does not, it is completely ok. Hope has the negative potential for no response, but the positive potential of bliss.
Next thing that you need to keep in mind is that what sort of expectation I am writing about. There can be two types of expectation: FIRST will be the expectation that we have from others and SECOND be the one that we have from ourselves. Which of these types you should go to; that I will be describing below. Let’s start from very basic;
- Expectation from others:
Effects: In this strong expectation, when it does happen, you don't really get any joy because it was part of the entitlement. But when it does not happen, eventually it will hurt you only. It lets you down and makes you upset.
What we can do: Humans and expectations behave like a simple rubber band – the more you stretch it, the more it wants to bounce back. If we lose consciousness, over-stretching will break the rubber band. Don’t expect much from others because when your expectation break, it will adversely affect you.
Now you may say, it is human nature to expect anything from anyone but it is not. It is all about how you train your mind to behave. The person whose expectations had been broken many times, that person’s mind automatically becomes trained not to expect much from others, as in, he/she had suffered much by expecting from others. So, to prevent yourself from mental and emotional suffering, you need to train your mind not to blindly trust anyone or to expect much from anyone.
- Expectation from ourselves:
Effects: Expecting ourselves to meet some goals can never let us down. Because when it does happen, we will be happy and full of joy. And when it does not, we will not get disappointed and many times, people get encouraged from the failures they face and hence gain ability to achieve more and more. When we learn from our failures, we become unstoppable.
What we can do: Set goals and take small steps to reach that goal. Expect yourself that you will pass every obstacle that you will see. And train yourself to learn from failures and not to get discouraged by them.
Don’t set such high goals for yourself other you will be responsible for your disappointments. Set a goal that is achievable and work in that direction. When it is achieved, set another goal and this will actually help you to move up and achieve better.
Many a times, we spend a lot of time, nurturing the people around us without even realizing that we have started expecting from them. Whenever someone falls below our expectations, was it their fault if they did not perform up to our expectations? Mostly, people don’t have any clue that they are falling below our expectations and hence unknowingly, let us down.
No one ever will be bothered about when and what you are expecting them to do. So, it’s better to have expectations from ourselves rather than others.
Get set and go! And let yourself to be the beneficiary of the ability to manage your expectations.
For more visit: https://wordpress.com/post/spiritedwordsdotlife.wordpress.com/90
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