Train your Brain: FOCUS ON GOALS

Hi folks,

Today I have come up with a new topic that is ,”how to FOCUS ON YOUR GOALS”, that is much needed when you are chasing your dreams.

When you are after your goals, you need to inseminate fearlessness, endurance for failures, attuned hard work and an obvious vigilance on your time. I am going to mention some simple tips about how you can stay focused towards your goals and enhancing your personal plight.

1.      Set a goal: The first and foremost thing that you can do is set your goal. As it is said,” a goal properly set is halfway reached.” So, to work towards your goal, you need to have a goal first. Think and think and decide.

2.      Plan your steps: The steps you are required to take while chasing your dreams, just note it down and create a full proof plan or can say strategy to achieve what you want. As there is no elevator to success, you have to take stairs. Don’t try to trot or a shortcut because results don’t come overnight, so, take it day by day.

3.      Eliminate toxicity: Whatever is bringing you down, you need to get rid of it now. Toxic relations, negative people, demotivating environment anything that is hindering your focus just delete it and accentuate the positive. But remember; preserve the suave and genial ones, who are hungry for life, nourish your soul and worth motivating.

4.      Starve your distraction, feed your focus: Yes you read it right. Don’t dissuade towards the noise. Just ignore them and focus. Make a to-do list for the day that contains activities that will take you one step closer towards your goal. Restrict your schedule like, early to bed and early to rise.

5.      Observe successful people: You just need to observe their lifestyle, their schedule or can say daily routine. And then that will help you to attune yourself and get rid of a morbid lifestyle. Their life, their routine will be a docile for you. Don’t try to copy them just try to adopt their routine that’s it.

6.      Get to work: ‘No goal was ever met, without a little sweat.’ Keep this in mind and go after your dream and keep moving towards your goals. Don’t stop until you reach your goals. Just be proud of each step you take towards your goal.

7.      Vivacity in life: Don’t appreciate negative vibes in your life. Be positive, think positive. Be a repertory of energy. Because success with a positive attitude is called ‘ACHIEVEMENT’.

You are not needed to be indurate or covetous as both will harm your progress. So set your goals high and don’t stop until you reach there. Whenever you feel dreary or nauseating, just remember why you started and observe your growth from starting. Then you will feel motivated enough to resume your hard work.

 John B. Bejo said,” Focus on your goals like a hungry lion and run after it without any thought except to get.” Stop dreaming and get into action because success doesn’t come to you, you go to it.

Speak what you feel without hesitation

Hi Folks,

Good evening all the people out there. How you all are doing? Today we will be discussing about one problem that almost each one of us goes through. ‘Fear of Public Speaking’

Most of the people feel shy while speaking in public. What abstain you from speaking in public? Fear of rejection, disenchanted audience, lack of confidence, not knowing whether you are uttering the correct thing or not, and fear of making a fool out of yourself etc etc. There are many reasons to threaten you from feeling lousy while speaking.

Yes it is rightly said by Ralph Waldo Emerson,”All the great speakers were bad speakers at first.” What made them great?? When they loose their fear and decided to represent their words without hesitation in front of thousands of people, then they became what they are called so.

There are some tips to improve your public speaking skills and will help you in growing yourself as a good speaker.

1.      Avoid talking too fast: This is something that you can practice with your daily life conversations. Talking with a high velocity can make your words get grumbled and thus the other person will not understand what you are trying to say. Take your time while speaking and be wise enough to know where to put a ‘pause’.

2.      Record your voice and learn from it: Tone of your voice is as important as your words. You can do this to know how much fluent you are, how your tone go with the words and also what is your voice quality.

3.      Practice with mirror: Yes, this may seem something very strange but this is true. Speaking in front of mirror makes you more confidence and can help you in maintaining your postures and body language.

4.      Practice in front of your friends and family: Participate in family function and give speeches. This will help you regain your confidence.

5.      Listen or read speeches: The collection of speeches by Swami Vivekananda is a great option. Analyse the prominent speeches and try to understand what makes a speech stand out. You will slowly learn to make catchy statements.

6.      Do not recite the same sentence: Take extra care not to repeat any sentence over and over again. You should also make sure that you do not repeat the same quote in two different speeches in front of the same audience.

7.      Speak in public events: After much practice, it is high time to speak in front of strangers. Participate in public events and opt to speak in front of stranger.

A few more factors that need your attention are:

·        Take care of your dressing and grooming that will give a better impression on the audience.

·        Body language is more powerful than words. So pay special attention to your gestures.

·        Targeting individual is not cool. So, avoid that and go ahead with a cool headed approach.

·        Careful use of words. Words are free; it’s how you use them that may cost you.

Always remember,’ if you fail, don’t be embarrassed by your failures. Learn from them and start again with a new approach.’

Become a forthright but with a level- headed mind. Feel positive and be a jauntily person. Avoid the fear of everything, lose your shyness and speak what you feel. All you need to do is grasp your subject and the words will follow you.

It’s time to upgrade your roots. All the best!! Have a great day.

RAPE: Special kind of EVIL

RAPE...... what is it?? I guess it’s just a topic now-a-days. I don’t think it is a serious crime.

 If someone is made to have sex when you don’t want to, then make your mood. Give your consent; either he is a stranger or a person you know. Either you are wearing shorts or wrapped in a saree with a ‘GHUNGHAT’. Either you are giving any sign like ‘come, I am ready for a rape’ or you are just minding your own business. If you are subjected to rape then get raped. It is not a tall order, get raped, it will become common in some time. What is the problem??

Sounds weird????

So, what should I say? Annihilate yourself from rapes. Can you? Or should I say abstain yourself in your homes. What is the guarantee that you will not get raped there?  Or what about a comment on your dressing because that can also inchoate a feeling in a men to have one round with you. What to say if an 8 year old girl can get rapped then WHO ARE YOU?

So, for now, we have protected girls in wombs. But what about the world outside the womb? Is it not meant for girls to be safe or girls are only given birth to be raped. Let me give you some examples from last year rape cases: (source: INDIA TIMES)

1.      Bihar, 16 June; A 14 year old was raped by six minors and then thrown from a train..

2.      Gurugram; A 19 yr old mother with her 8-months baby was raped by the auto driver in a shared auto and 2 other men on board the auto. And threw her baby out on the road.

3.      Sonipat, 9 May; A 23 yr old girl was gang raped and her skull was smashed with brick.

4.      Kolkata; A young girl of 8 was sexually assaulted by her uncle many times before she fled that home.

5.      Jewar-bulandshahr road; the family was travelling from Jewar to Bulandshehr hospital. 2 tyres were punctured and when the driver got down to help, 6 men attacked and four women were gang raped.

6.      Khagaria (Bihar), 19 June; A college girl was raped by her boyfriend and then set on fire.

7.      Telangana; a 60-yr old husband rapes a woman while his wife films the horrendous act.

8.      Amreha budawan (U.P.); A 7 yr old girl, who was sleeping next to her mother, was picked from home and raped.

9.      Gurugram; A woman, 26 years by age, from Sikkim was raped for 5 hours by 3 men in a moving car on the Delhi-Gurugram border.

1.   Mangaluru; A minor girl (a college girl) was raped by her own father for several months.

1.   Puri (Orissa), April; A physically challenged minor girl was raped inside the lord Jagannath Temple.

1.   Unnao, 4 June; A 17 year old was raped by a MLA, his brother and others and her father died, as he was thrashed allegedly by the MLA’s brother.

And now the most recent, KATHUA RAPE CASE. An 8 year old infant was brutally gang raped in a Temple for 8 days. Interesting isn’t it? Is this our humanity? Or I guess it’s a new way of worshipping in India.

Where are the people who were doing deceptive riots against the so called movie because it was creating menace for their mythological history and it was endangering their historical prestige. The interesting part is, those ladies with swords in their hands on the roads with a vicious attitude, where are they?

So, what more we can do is a Candle March. Good idea I guess!! But how many times? Don’t you think in this movie called ‘LIFE’ we need to do some meaningful action scenes too? Isn’t it a high time to take strict actions against this? AHAANN No not at all. 

Some are busy in protecting the divinity of their historical goddesses while some are solving a hoary case. And rest are sitting in their homes and judging the outside world. Are you all playing to the gallery only? Who is responsible to take actions? Only the Government?

Now, my eyes are filled with tears and I am feeling disenchanted, shattered and fully fed-up. It is effable. I will not request you all to take any steps because what you all can do is to create futile and histrionic scenes only. I don’t want to detriment someone’s feelings but this is true.

Are you all are waiting for MIRACLE to happen? When you will be awakening with a vengeful feel in you? U know when? When your daughter, your mother, your sister or your female friend will get sexually assaulted in front of your eyes with an iron rod and when you see them lying in an appalling state and dying then you will feel the fierce feeling. And why I am feeling it? Because I am girl and when my brother says,” come before its dark.” I know why he is saying so.

All I can say is THIS IS THE NASCENT AND DEVELOPING INDIA. #DISSAPPOINTED

First Impression is the Last Impression

Hi all intellects out there.

I hope you all must be enjoying my blogs. But don’t forget to comment that will fortify me to write more ideas and solutions for the mentally vulnerable people and also the changes you need in my blogs.

So, let’s start with today’s topic i.e., ‘FIRST IMPRESSION IS THE LAST IMPRESSION’. But before starting, let me clear one thing that don’t adjudicate that this blog is only for the people with beautiful faces but also for the people with beautiful souls.

You will agree or not but this is a very true fact that first representation of yourself is the sparkle that lasts long in a person’s mind, in case of any interview or date.. Ahaann.. that’s true. Then what are the things that you need to take care for your first impression, you will find it in today’s blog.

Imagine you are going for an interview. But your situation is very lousy to see. So will the interviewer be interested in having a sacred conversation with you? Or if you have the very first day you office and you are behaving as a lose head and futile person. Will your colleagues will approach you or you will become ‘a hot potato’ in your office? Or let’s take a lay man example, like you are going on a date and the boy or girl you are going to meet is your online friend. So, you will sow the seeds of a pristine personality or a lunatic personality?

The answer for all the questions is same. For a stirring impression you have to give a reflection of your chivalrous and impeccable personality. So, what are key points to keep into mind for your likeable first impression.

1.       Appearance: Whenever you enter a room what everyone discover is your personality as in what you look. (NOTE: Not mandatory that you should have a good face) First thing, your clothing should be as per the occasion. It is not necessary to buy a brand-new and over priced clothes. You can mix and match the old ones or you can buy clothes with nominal prices having an essence of expensive clothes. You should wear decent accessories that includes earrings, neck-piece etc. And last smarten up with well settled hairs and a least of makeup.

2.      Hygiene: How much hygienic you are, is a representation of your standardised charisma. Before going for your first meeting with anyone have a bath, clean nails, tidy clothes and shoes, and well trimmed and uncluttered hairs.

3.      Wear a smile: Always try to wear a genuine smile that spreads a positive vibes in the surrounding environment and thus makes a great meeting to get started.

4.      Mushy Greetings: A generous handshake or a warm hug, expresses a lot about your personality. The way you meet and greet a person is one more thing the other person notices in your traits. Always remember to accost (greet) the person whenever you meet them.

5.      Way of talking: The way you talk and vocalise your words is a matter if the other person is getting connected with you. You must know first what your and other person’s mutual interest is. Whenever there is an interesting topic going on in-between two persons then the enthusiasm for having a conversation increases. Worthless topics can only make time to be transitory.

6.      Be a good listener: A good listener is very nearly as attractive as a good speaker. You can not have a beautiful mind if you do not know how to listen. Summon up, your ears will not get you in trouble. No one likes a loquacious person.

7.      Be yourself: A majorly important point and that be yourself. Don’t become much histrionic or specious. Just represent the real you but in a positive way.

These are some points that you need to remember that will bolster your confidence and steer you towards a great meeting. This will give you a prerogative powers to attract a slew rate of people and avert you from falling down.

Almost everyone can make a good first impression but only a few can make a good lasting impression. So, keeping all these points in mind, have a great day ahead and give a lavish impression on others.

You can also follow: https://spiritedwordsdotlife.wordpress.com/2018/04/03/first-impression-is-the-last-impression/ 

Quick fixing Over-Introspection (OVERTHINKING)...

Hey beautiful people out there,

What’s up for the day? Hope you guys are good at your places.

Today I am going to discuss about the thing that most of the people suffer from and it is 'Deceitful Anticipation' i.e., ‘OVERTHINKING’. Once I was also suffering from the similar problem and that eradicated my thinking capability and caused me depression and stress. Stress causes health and mental issues. Therefore our mind misattributes situations that are actually not like that.

This over thinking is nothing but a state of mind in which a person’s mind is always busy in thinking everything negative about any situation or a person or anything and hence gets stressed about all the things in the mind.

In most of the cases, this happens in relationships. When a person ignores his or her partner or is busy in something, then the ignored ones starts deliberating everything negative. This is human nature and not a mental disease. But yes this gives rise to many issues in your life as well as mental state.

 Every lock has its key. And this muddle has many elucidations.

1.      Be busy : When you think anything is causing you melancholy and because of that you are getting worried then get yourself busy with some work. And hence your mind gets busy and it gets no time and no space for false thinking.

2.      Focus on yourself: You should focus on yourself and embellish your personality because a jovial personality attracts interesting people.

3.      Surround yourself: You should surround yourself with your loved ones like family and friends and this adds happiness to your daily mundane.

4.      Meditation: An archaic yet effective way for a serene mind is meditation. Close your eyes and play some instrumental and soft music for two minutes or more as per your preference.

5.      Hobbies: Everyone has some activity that refreshes his or her mind and it is also a happiness booster.

‘An empty mind is a devil’s place’ keeping this in mind make yourself busy in more activities and adore every moment of your life. Make yourself fun loving and enjoy your own company.

A negative impermeable mind only spreads recusant vibes and hence our relations get spoiled. ‘A serene mind is all that we need’ and it spreads positivity and attracts much more happiness.

So, have a merry life and spread smiles everywhere.

MOOD OFF?? Here's the solution..

Hi you beautiful people out there. Hope you all are doing good at your places... It's been long time that I have not posted anything about life. But today I am here with a new idea. 

The most common thing that people suffer from. "Feeling unknowingly low". This happens with everyone in this world. Me, you, everyone..... Sometimes it feels like we are upset about something and we don't know why and there is nothing wrong in feeling that way.

How this idea came into my mind to write a blog on this topic. Actually it happened with me yesterday. I was upset and I don't even know why. When I asked my mom about the same she delivered the same Indian mom's dialogue," Are you alright? Is your health fine? You must be feeling gas in your stomach." And I was there sitting like,"what????" Then I told her it is about my mood. I was frustrated I was upset about something. Then a girlish thing came into my mind that is shopping.... That's the only thing that a girl needs for her refreshment. LOL... Just kidding...

See the thing is sometimes our mind needs rest and our body supports that and so we feel low. Sometimes we know what we are feeling but we can not explain anyone. 

The only solution for this is to do something that is fascinating. Any activity that makes us feel good, happy and refreshed. It can be anything sports, shopping (actually boys should also try that), going out with friends or it can be sleeping also anything that can make you feel refreshed. Sometimes we need to sit alone and think what is making us feel this way and wasting much time just on feeling fed up from everyone instead of creating loving moments.

It varies person to person. Include some activity in your daily life schedule and you will feel a difference. Just remember ' the person who can make you happy is the person yourself '.  May be some of your friends must be bothered about your mood but only you are responsible for what you are feeling. So JUST BE HAPPY & SPREAD SMILES.......